In the past I was a compulsive people pleaser… my personal vibration and self-esteem used to vary from moment to moment depending on the incoming compliments and moods of those around me. I remember feeling downright awful if someone I cared about was sad, mad, hurt, or in crisis. It seemed like I was putting out fires in someone’s life every day!
I wanted to fix EVERYTHING for everyone; wanting their happiness at the expense of my own because I allowed their emotional “stuff” to take me out of alignment every time. I spent my twenties and early thirties restoring and decorating a 1780’s farmhouse, that I formally named Bantam Hill Farm on the Gold Coast of Long Island. I owned, bred and did the husbandry for dogs, cats, parrots, chickens, goats, llamas, turkeys, mini horses, big ass draft horses, a camel named Joshua and two red kangaroo named Rosie and Daisy – total truth.
I planted formal gardens and hosted many lavish backyard parties for one hundred plus people on our four-acre property. I cooked farm-to-table meals most nights and planned gatherings throughout the year; each time putting together a sophisticated menu, shopping for and preparing all the food, drink and dessert selections for twelve people at a time– trust me when I tell you that Martha Stewart had nothing on me![bctt tweet=”Are you ready to rule your kingdom (your life)? Meet your Inner Queen here!” via=”no”] Towards my late thirties, I was still doing all of those creative Domestic Goddess things… but as I got ready for bed one night after yet another fabulous gathering, I noticed a new feeling beginning to bubble up from deep within me… I felt resentful.
WHAT?
I realized that I no longer felt the same joy in taking care of everyone, being the consummate hostess and the fixer of everything… I found myself wanting to have someone do things for ME, take care of ME – cook dinner for ME!
WHY?
At the time I really didn’t understand why that was, I only knew that something within me had shifted, and I made the choice to honor it. I immediately began my journey of self-discovery and in the process found my answers.

Make Way For The QUEEN!

There are three archetypal phases that a woman’s life is broken up into:

• Maiden – Childhood, adolescence, beginnings, purity, virginity, independence, courage. Each girl begins life as the young maiden, innocent and pure of heart.
• Mother – Motherhood, protection, fertility, growth, creativity, sexuality. She then becomes the loving mother, giving life to another human being or birth to a business and accepting the nurturing responsibilities of raising the young and building a business/career.
• Crone – Old age, keeper of the mysteries, wisdom, change, transformation, death, rebirth, banishing. Then, in her final phase, a woman becomes a crone, no longer able to bear children but possessing infinite wisdom to pass down to others.

This archetypal timeline worked fabulously for centuries, however these days women are living to be Centenarians (100+) and quite frankly, most women of menopausal age are just not ready to consider themselves Crones! I mean we still got it going on baby![bctt tweet=”Maiden, Mother, QUEEN and Crone? Meet this emerging Archetype for women!” via=”no”] Because of the increase in lifespans and all of the scientific breakthroughs in cultivating vitality and anti-aging, a new archetype has activated in women…

• The Queen Archetype.

The Queen emerges roughly between the ages of 40 and 60 years old, so she’s most active between the Mother and Crone phase. She no longer wants to mother and nurture others as a full time job, but instead wants to rule her kingdom (her life). The Queen’s children are older or have flown the nest completely OR she had birthed a career or business, it’s out of the infancy stage and has gained momentum. She has new found sovereignty and it feels GOOD. The Queen begins to go on vacations with her beloved or girlfriends, go out to dinner more often, has a ton more personal freedom and usually questions what she wants to do with the rest of her life.

Maiden, Mother, QUEEN, and Crone

This is what happened to me, have you had a similar experience?
Today, my youngest is thirteen years old, a middle guy who’s almost seventeen and a daughter getting married in early 2016. My children can get their own drinks, make their own sandwiches, heat up their dinner and wipe their own tooshies. I birthed a career doing my soul work six years ago – it has gained momentum, and my husband and I vacation all over the globe a few times per year.
I’m A Queen.
I’ve become the Queen of my life using a process I created called Goddess Lifestyle Alchemy™ – a journey that unleashes your Divine Feminine, Pinpoints Your Deepest Desires, and Empowers You To Magically Create An Abundant Life You LOVE!
I invite you to breathe in this information and take stock of what phase you’re at in your life. Are you in the Maiden phase or the Mother phase? Have you entered into the Queen phase or are you a bad ass Crone?
Each phase brings with it it’s own magic and gifts.
I wish you a blessed and beautiful spring – a time of rebirth, renewal and hope… the Maiden phase of the four seasons!

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